Happy birthday Bun

The Bunster is 3 years old today. Wow, what a journey this little man has had already. Talk about a wild ride, not that he will ever remember any of it. But we sure do have a lot of pics and videos. One day we can show him how his first 3 years were.

Being a dad is magical and exhausting. And yes, I am just another dad. No big deal. I know. Please excuse me. I do love this new dimension to life, but throw in the war, and everything else, and, well, we are seriously tired just about all the time. Marta is a trooper – I am very lucky to be married to her. The Bun has one helluva cool mom. He is lucky this little man.

I feel confident that the Bun man is nurtured and loved to the maximum. We are hands on parents and we don’t outsource his days to a TV set. He is active, and we walk with him, talk with him, ride bikes and scooters, build things with Lego, learn magic (well, er, I am trying to teach him some stuff, but he eats the cards), read books (in English and Ukrainian) and more. He is often not easy on us our busy little Bun and he still does not sleep through the night. But we love him too bits and he makes us smile, and sometimes cry.

I imagine a purpose of every parent is to leave the world in a better state for the next generation but it looks like we are all failing. What a mad world the Bun will grow up in – it often scares me. Between the wired kids and the digital devices everywhere, and the violence, this evil war, toxic social media, a hotter planet … it is a very different world to when I was a kid.

The war has been so traumatic and it is not ending any time soon. We just want to return to where Bun was born, to his home city, Kyiv. The devastation of this insane war can be seen in the divorce rate in Ukraine which has more than doubled since the start of the full scale invasion. And then there are the children that Russia has “taken”. Hundreds and thousands of innocent young souls. It is frightening to think about this. And the world just watches, and no one can do anything to stop it. We do thank God the Bunster knows nothing of this evil.

We sometimes talk about a brother or sister for Bun. But we would only ever consider this when the war ends. For now, the Bun man is our focus, and we are doing all we can to try give him a good life experience. So far so good, we think … war and all.

Rules

I remember my first visit to Kyiv, which was over 15 years ago. I remember the friendly, innocent young guys working at the hotel. At that stage of the world DVDs were still a thing. I found some of our movies, by chance, in a DVD shop at the bottom level of the Globus mall by Independence Square. That shop is no longer there. DVDs are not something one can easily find these days in shops. I remember asking this one guy at the hotel about trying to find a particular movie. He said that I should just give him a memory stick and he would put it onto the stick for me. And I discovered that the word “copyright” in Eastern Europe was interpreted as the “right to copy”.

There are rules, like the 10 Commandments, which if everyone followed, would mean the world would be a more peaceful place. And then there are international laws, formed by governments, which we all think are important, but if some countries don’t follow these laws then we let it go. So what if Eastern Europe copies software, music, movies, etc. Corporations can’t really do anything about it so they live with it. But when one country starts sending missiles to its neighbour and killing innocent people, week after week, somehow this too is something everyone just lives with. What if those missiles suddenly were sent to your city?

Last night Ukraine was hit by so many missiles. The trauma, the death, the destruction, just doesn’t seem to ever stop. And it is amazing that the world cannot stop it. What is the point of the United Nations, for example. Some countries don’t follow the rules and because it is just Ukraine, so what. But what happens if it is suddenly meant that France or Canada, say, were attacked by deadly missiles. Would the world watch or would there be serious action?!

Here is an excerpt from one of the online news channels from Ukraine – this is from last night. And this is taking place every week, often many times a week.

What is currently known about the consequences of the missile attack and shelling:

▪️ In Kyiv, several high-rise buildings, a service station, a gas pipe, and an institution were damaged by rocket fragments. Seven people were injured, including two children.

▪️ In Kharkiv, six hits in Slobodsky district. Two people are wounded.

▪️ A missiles hits a civilian infrastructure facility in Cherkasy. Five people are wounded. At least one person is under the rubble.

▪️ In Kherson, Russians shelled residential neighborhoods. Two people were killed, five wounded, and seven others injured.

▪️ Missiles hit Rivne. Details are still unknown.

▪️ In Lviv region, three Russian missiles hit Drohobych. Two hit an industrial facility and one hit a private two-story warehouse.

Here in Poland people are worried. If Ukraine falls, God forbid, then the Russian border will be pushed to Poland and if you think that the evil will suddenly stop there then you are mad. Evil is exactly that, evil. It doesn’t have boundaries. It will continue to spread, like a cancer. Putin will keep testing the weakness of the West and I would not be surprised if he suddenly attacked the Baltics next.

Russia has never played by the rules, so if you think they have limits to their evil then you are wrong.

More from Prof Timothy Snyder in Kyiv

Greetings from Kyiv. I have spent the last several days in Ukraine, here in the capital, and in the southerly regions of Odesa, Mykolaïv, and Kherson, trying to get a sense of the state of the war. I will write more about the experience, but I thought that it might be a good time to share my most general sense.

It is a crucial moment, partly because of what is happening, and partly because of our own sense of time. One and a half years is an awkward period for us. We might like to think that it can be brought to a rapid conclusion, with this or that offensive or weapon. When the war does not quickly end, we jump to the idea that it is a “stalemate,” which is a situation that lasts forever. This is false, and serves as a kind of excuse not to figure out what is going on. This is a war that can be won, but only if we are patient enough to see the outlines and the opportunities.

Russia’s gains in this invasion were made almost entirely during its first few weeks, in February and March 2022. Those gains were largely possible thanks to the fact that Russia had seized the Crimean Peninsula in its earlier invasion of Ukraine in 2014. Over the course of 2022, Ukraine won the battles of Kyiv, Kharkiv, and Kherson, and took back about half of the territory Russia gained. 

In the first half of 2023, Russia undertook an offensive that gained almost nothing but the city of Bakhmut. In the second half of this year Ukraine has undertaken a counter-offensive which has taken far more territory than did the Russian offensive, but which has not (yet) changed the overall strategic position (but could). In Russia, a military coup was attempted by Yevgeny Prigozhin, the leader of the mercenary group that took Bakhmut. He and Putin made a deal, after which Putin killed him. In a related development, Sergei Surovikin, probably the most capable Russian general, has been relieved of his command. Russia now has no meaningful offensive potential.

Its strategy is to continue terror against civilians until Ukrainians can endure no longer. This, judging from my experience anyway, is not a tenable approach. On the other hand, Russia has had time to extensively fortify a long long of defense in the east and south, and to prepare for Ukrainian offensives. This makes Ukrainian offensives very difficult. 

Ukraine did want to press forward last year, before the fortifications were built. It lacked the necessary weapons, and Elon Musk chose to cut Ukraine off from communications. That move likely extended the war. Because Musk’s decision was based on his internalization of Russian propaganda about nuclear war, and was accompanied by his repetition of that propaganda, he made a nuclear war more likely. If powerful men convey the message that just talking about nuclear war is enough to win conventional wars, then we will have more countries with nuclear weapons and more conventional wars that can escalate into nuclear ones. Ukraine has been resistant to this line of Russian fearmongering, fortunately for us all.

Ukraine did not have the arms it needed last year in part for the same reason: Americans allowed Russian propaganda to displace strategic calculation. By now, though, the American side has generally understood that Russia’s nuclear threat was a psychological operation meant to slow weapons deliveries. The United States and European partners have delivered arms to Ukraine, which has been absolutely indispensable. Historically speaking, though, the pace is slow. Fighter planes are coming, but a year late for the current offensive. So Ukrainians are now trying an offensive in conditions that American staff officers would find challenging. Americans take for granted economic superiority, prior destruction of logistics, and air supremacy, none of which describe the Ukrainian position. Ukrainians do not even have numerical superiority, let alone of the 3-1 or 5-1 variety that would be standard advice for an offensive.

The fighting this summer has been very hard and very costly for Ukraine, harder and costlier, I think, than it had to be. I visited wounded soldiers in a rehabilitation center earlier today; among the many feelings this aroused was some guilt that my people could have done more to protect these people.

That said, Ukrainian territorial advances this summer have been sufficient to trigger a barrage of calls for a cease-fire from Kremlin-friendly voices.

Given the way or media seems to work, these calls (rather than the events on the ground) sometimes seem to be the news. Pro-Kremlin op-eds smuggle in the assumption that Ukraine is not advancing, when in fact it is.

The Kremlin allies make their case in terms of Ukrainian suffering, but never cite Ukrainians, nor the polling data that shows overwhelming support for the war.

There is zero reason to believe that the Kremlin would actually feel constrained by such an agreement in any place; it did not even begin to hold to the terms of the agreement after its last invasion, and in invading again Moscow has violated all of its agreements with Ukraine (while making clear that it does not consider Ukraine a state). Russian propagandists talking to Russian audiences do not hide that the goal is the destruction of the Ukrainian nation, and that a ceasefire would just be meant to buy time. Now that the nuclear bluff has largely worn itself out, Moscow has changed its approach, trying instead to make people believe that nothing is happening on the battlefield. Moscow’s hope is to motivate Ukraine’s allies to restrain Ukraine long enough for Russia to shift the balance of forces in its favor.

Ukraine is deploying its own long-range strike capability to destroy airplanes and logistics in Russian territory, which is a necessary condition for winning the war. This is an awkward development, since western partners don’t always think through how a war like this can be brought to an end. It ends when one side wins. The questions are who wins and under what conditions. 

The American allies take the correct view that Ukraine to win must break through the Russian lines. But there are just not that many Ukrainians to throw into surges, and from a Ukrainian perspective those lives should be put at risk when the battlefield has been shaped. The notion of a breakthrough is also too narrowly defined. Even setting aside the value of life, which is what this war is all about, military history does show that battlefield victories are the final stage of a larger process that begins with logistics.

This war has brought an entirely new theory of what a defensive war means: fighting only on one’s own territory. This does not correspond to international law and has never made any sense. It is a bit like rooting for a basketball team but believing it should play without ever taking the ball past halfcourt, or rooting for a boxer but claiming he is not allowed to throw a punch after his opponent does. Had such a notion been in place in past wars, none of Ukraine’s partners would ever have won any of the wars they are proud of winning.

The voiced concern is that Russia could “escalate.” This argument is a triumph of Russian propaganda. None of Ukraine’s strikes across borders has done anything except reduce Russian capacity. None has led Russia to do things it was not already doing. The notion of “escalation” in this setting is a misunderstanding. In trying to undo Russian logistics, Ukraine is trying to end the war. Ukraine will not do in Russia most of the things Russia has done in Ukraine. It will not occupy or seize territory, it will not execute civilians, it will not build concentration camps and torture chambers. What it must be allowed to do, to have some chance of stopping those Russian practices in Ukraine, is to have the capacity to win the war.

With every village that Ukraine takes back, we see the most important de-escalation: away from war crimes and genocide, towards something more like a normal life.

Victory will be difficult, but it is the relevant concept. I don’t know any Ukrainians at this point who have not lost a friend or a family member in this war. My friends now tend to have a certain dark circle around the eyes and a tendency to look into the middle distance. And yet the level of determination is very, very high. In the few days I have been here there have been missile attacks in or near both cities where I spent the night, a murderous Russian strike on a market, and a Russian attempt to cut off Ukrainian grain exports with missiles and drones. This is daily life — but it is Ukrainian daily life, not ours. The Ukrainians are doing all of the fighting; we are doing part of the funding. What Ukrainian resistance protects, though, extends far beyond Ukraine.

The Ukrainians are defending the legal order established after the Second World War. They have performed the entire NATO mission of absorbing and reversing an attack by Russia with a tiny percentage of NATO military budgets and zero losses from NATO members. Ukrainians are making a war in the Pacific much less likely by demonstrating to China that offensive operations are harder than they seem. They have made nuclear war less likely by demonstrating that nuclear blackmail need not work. Ukraine is also fighting to restore its grain exports to Africa and Asia, where millions of people have been put at risk by Russia’s attack on the Ukrainian economy.

Last but not least, Ukrainians are demonstrating that a democracy can defend itself.

Ukrainians are delivering to us kinds of security that we could not attain on our own. I fear that we are taking these security gains for granted. (In my more cynical moments, I fear that some of us, perhaps even some presidential candidates, resent the Ukrainians precisely for helping us so much.) 

This war will not end because of one sudden event, but nor will it go on indefinitely. When and how it ends depends largely on us, on what we do, on how much we help. Even if we did not care at all about Ukrainians (and we should), getting this war to end with a Ukrainian victory would be by far the best thing Americans could do for themselves. Indeed, I do not think that, in the history of US foreign relations, there has ever been a chance to secure so much for Americans with so little effort by Americans. I do hope we take that chance.

– 7 Sept, 2023

Leaving home … again

Tomorrow evening Craig and I are going to the train station in Kyiv and we are heading to Wroclaw. I am leaving my home, again. I have now done this a few times and each time it hurts like hell. God knows if I will be able to ever return. I believe I will, and I want to. I believe all of us will return next year. But again, only God knows. I don’t want to leave tomorrow but I need to get back to Marta and Bunster. It is a sad feeling to leave Kyiv, and I also feel guilty.

The first time we left was the day after the war started. Something none of us will ever forget. At that stage we were terrified and in shock. I am not in shock anymore but the sadness is still there. But I am also inspired and high on life. It is a roller coaster of emotions and it is very hard to describe this feeling. One needs to understand Kyiv and one needs to be here to experience the magic and miracle that is Ukraine. The world predicted that Kyiv would fall in 3 days, and it never happened. Then the Russians were going to freeze everyone to death during the winter, and that never happened. Ukraine is strong and brave. This is the story of David and Goliath. But this story is far from over. Yes, there is a lot of stress about the future. Russia has endless money and way too many zombies that they keep sending to the meat grinder. Looking only at the numbers, things do not look good for Ukraine. But, Ukraine knows why they are fighting. They have the support from much of the normal world, and they have truth on their side. Please God the truth wins out – it generally does. One think I keep wondering: what do Russian soldiers think when they kill Ukrainians. And it is not just Ukrainian soldiers they kill, but also, so many civilians.

I hope I will be able to come back again soon. Maybe Marta will return home with me on the next train ride I take from Wroclaw to Kyiv. I know she desperately wants to return home. Wroclaw has been good to us and we can’t complain. Bunster is in a good kindergarten, the city is kind and pretty, and the fridge is full of food. So many people are fighting, and dying, so that we can one day return to Kyiv. When you are in Kyiv everyone speaks about the soldiers. The soldiers are the reason I can sit in my home in Kyiv and write this. God protect them all.

We have had a busy time here in Kyiv over the past 6 weeks filming interviews and capturing moods and texture. Our film project is in the last stretch and soon we will see the full film come together. It is going to be a powerful and important piece of work and we hope it will showcase the magic that we all experience here in Kyiv. In our group of people that are featured in the film, there are now 6 new Ukrainians. People from our film are getting married in the war, and some are having babies. Life goes on, bomb shelters, air raid sirens, and all.

There is a lot of hardship still to come and the trauma is going to last for generations. And still, with all of this pain, people want to be here and they want to make Ukraine grow and prosper. Corruption is the other war, the internal battle. It is on everyone’s lips. Corruption is everywhere in the world, and here it is one of the painful legacies from the old Soviet system. I believe Mr. Zelensky is doing all he can to fight corruption and that things are slowly getting better.

I love this city. It is my home. The two film editors, Janine and Jol, who just left Kyiv, have fallen in love with this place. It is far from perfect, but it just all works. The soul, the creativity, the laughter, the eccentricity, the beauty … I knew they would not want to leave. And there is a war going on. They experienced missiles being shot down, air raid sirens and all the stresses that have now become the new normal. And with all of that, they would stay on if they could.

We are confident that the film will present all that they have experienced. Ukraine deserves a better conversation in the world. This has been the motivation for the film, going back many many years. There are so many stupid stereotypes when it comes to Ukraine, and a different story needs to be told. That is why we are working like crazy to get this done. We want to share a different take on Ukraine. We believe that a story about modern Ukrainians will capture people’s imaginations in a big way.

Kyiv is a gift for the world. This city is a well kept secret and if the world allows Ukraine to fall then the world loses something so special and very important. Ukraine is a brains trust, a creative hub, a massive food producer, a beautiful land, and so much more. I discovered late in life, during the war actually, that my father’s parents were from Lemberg (Lviv) and that we have Ukrainian roots. This is my home and I can’t wait to return. I am sad and sorry that I have to leave tomorrow, again.

This war is pure evil. Russia keeps on terrorizing Ukraine, day after day. This is terrorism, and the world does not do enough to stop this evil. If Ukraine falls (which I don’t believe will happen) then this evil will not stop and then God help everyone. Ukraine is fighting for the world here. Ukraine is fighting for freedom. Freedom does not come for free. The Western world seems to have forgotten that. Ukraine is paying the ultimate price for freedom. The world could and should help Ukraine more.